Get Out of Comfort Zone

We all like to have party to celebrate for our success and achievement, but do we often cheer for our difficulties and problems when they’re facing us? You and I love the first clause of the previous sentence because it gives us the comfort of enjoying victory, it helps us to have the feeling of being successful and see how smart we are. You feel you’re stronger.

But when you’re going down and most of the things you care are going out of your control, the easiest thing you can do is feeling upset and disappointed. Most of us would start to blame on the situations or somebody rather than having a look at them and ourselves and see what’s really going on and why it is what it is. You may ask me “How can you stay calm when it’s down?” Well, that’s the very first positive thing to get your balance back  and be able to think straight. When your canoe engine is broken, the canoe is slowing down and a while later you can see that it’s floating backward because the stream is not going the same direction as you wish. You’re going backward faster and farther back if you wouldn’t somehow fix the engine or even row on your own in time.

I don’t like the success stories telling about how wonderful and excited someone would feel when they get an idea and make it come true. And on the way to their glory, they would have punctual helps so that they could get back on track and keep on moving smoothly to their destination. The reason why I don’t like these fairy tales is not because they sound good and are making the audience feel good. It’s just because they fail to help the readers see the entire picture of their authentic journeys to achieve their dreams, where they could visualize the difficulties, pitfalls and threats.

Then when everything is a mess and you’re sitting alone in a corner, on a piece of paper, you’re asking yourself the SWOT questions and try to answer them.

Strengths – What are my strong points? What are my real assets?

Weaknesses – Where am I still weak about? What’re my shortcomings?

Opportunities – What are the chances of gaining advantages and success? What’re the weaknesses of my competitors? Can I work it out an affiliate with some other businesses and how?

Threats – Are there any changes that can affect my business negatively? Are there any new businesses in my industry that can somehow and somewhat take my customers?

There’re a lot more of the questions that may be added to each category and have to be answered instead of wasting your time worrying and blaming.


Doesn’t Want to Have Fun?

When mentioning about difficulties, I remember the times I went to the beach. It has such a mysterious beauty that most people will feel relaxed when they’re there. You can feel the peacefulness and cool air surrounding you along with strong wind. If you look at it at a certain time, you can see it so peaceful and calm. Nothing can really heal us from our hardship as fast as the sea.

But you and me know for sure that there’s no short break in there deep in the ocean. Those oceanic creatures have to struggle to survive and develop in such an environment. And by doing what they have to do to get what they want in lives, the animals have become awesome and attractive to us as the observers. But how would you feel if we were in their shoes? Each of us has our own answer.

The waves take  turn to rush ashore, and while you’re swimming on that beach you can be assured that the next wave will come to you right after and as quickly as the former does. You can feel cold, hard and miserable during the time you’re learning how to get accustomed with the water or you can feel it cool, fun, interesting and fascinating to play with it. Which of these emotions do you want to choose to have with your sea games of life? It’s up to you all.